5 Tips to Help Combat Winter Sadness and Seasonal Affective Disorder from a Bozeman, Counselor

With the transition of darker days, colder nights, and winter knocking at our doors, many of us can experience what is commonly called Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD. According to Merriam-Webster website, SAD is defined as depression that tends to recur chiefly during the late fall and winter and is associated with shorter hours of daylight. Many may begin to experience depressive symptoms during this time of year, which can be a bit unnerving and concerning. It is not uncommon, particularly in the more northern states, to notice a shift in energy levels and moods as the winter months roll in. If you notice depressive symptoms are more cyclical with the change in seasons, perhaps you, too, may be experiencing seasonal affective disorder.

I commonly experience a transition in myself during this time of year. Sometimes it feels like it creeps up on me a bit, but there are a few things that I try to implement to help me fight the “winter blues.” Read on for a few tips and tricks. 

  1. Take your vitamin D. Sun is just one way that we can acquire vitamin D. I was told by my physician that many of us don’t get enough vitamin D, even if we spend time outside in the wintertime. Vitamin D is often identified as the sunshine vitamin, however with less exposure to sun in the winter, our skin cannot create enough vitamin D. Taking a daily vitamin D supplement can help with your bones, increase immunity, and perhaps contribute to energy levels in the body. Talking to your doctor about a vitamin D supplement could help you feel a bit more like yourself this winter. 

  2. SAD Lights. SAD lights are ways to mimic sunlight. According to nymag.com, SAD lights are ways to ‘trick’ the body into believing it’s summer and you can increase serotonin in your body which helps us “feel good.” There are plenty of options for SAD lights and some very affordable ones at Amazon.com. Incorporating SAD light therapy for about 30 minutes a day can be beneficial to mood increases. My mother uses hers every day while she gets ready for work in the morning and she swears by it. 

  3. Therapy. Perhaps a no brainer coming from a therapist, however, I find the value of therapy is even more important during this time of year. Having a therapist to touch base on a week to week basis can be helpful for accountability for acknowledging and processing your feelings and experiences, and is important to feel heard. At Bridger Peaks Counseling, we have a number of therapists who can help you in your therapeutic journey. What better time to start than now!

  4. Exercise. Indoors or outdoors, moving your body can be imperative to maintaining energy levels. I always encourage my clients to find ways that they enjoy moving their bodies. Some people hate the gym so maybe you get outside for a winter walk/hike instead. Group fitness classes can be huge for accountability and fun. Figure out what works for you and strive to find time a few times a week to make yourself and your body a priority. I love winter hiking here in Bozeman as the trails are well maintained and pretty packed down to make for very doable hikes. 

  5. Socialize. While it can be hard to feel in the mood to socialize, it can be so important to maintain connections with people. Isolating can be a cycle you can get stuck in and then can sometimes convince yourself that all you need is more alone time. Spending time with people you love and care about can be a huge mood booster. 

It’s important to be in tune with your emotions and moods. If you are noticing a more depressed state during this time of year, you’re not alone. Incorporating one or all of these strategies can help you combat that lull you feel during the winter months.






Why am I grieving if it’s a good thing for my child to leave home?

How many times had I heard something along the lines of, “The days are long, but the years are short.”?

When my husband and I had children, we never had the conversation about what it would be like when they would reach the age when they would leave home. It was never a thought either of us had time to formulate between less sleep, more feeding, more crying, less us time, baby cuddles, laughter, less me time, bonding, less sleep, more feeding…again. You know, keeping small humans alive and whatnot. 

But, here we are. Another child has stepped out into the adult world. 

I mean, first off, I don’t feel old enough to have children who have moved out, flown the coop, whatever. Can you tell I’m not super excited about this? Which, honestly, is a little confusing to me. How many times have the two of us talked about how amazing it would be once the kids left home and we would have so much more time to ourselves? We could travel more, sleep more, worry less about being quiet in our own room, engage in more personal hobbies; you know, live it up. It would be like we were honeymooners again after all these years! 

So why are we both crying…again. I don’t mean to paint the picture that my husband and I are crybabies (okay, maybe we are a little), but we have been weepy the last few days.  Even a little raw feeling. Things that may not have been such a big deal before, suddenly are. It’s harder to navigate relationship issues in a positive way when your heart already hurts.  It’s hard to realize everything you’ve put nearly your last two decades into has become exactly what you hoped they would, successfully moving on to fulfill their dreams and life, and you’re supposed to be excited about it. I am trying to tell myself I deserve a pat on the back for all that successful work, but I’m too busy with the Kleenexes to reach my back.

Okay, in all reality, we’re surviving, even thriving. We are traveling more now that the kids are older and/or moved out. We do spend more time together. We are dating more and stronger than ever as a couple. We’ve become closer than we even knew we could. (Build your relationship now so you can have a relationship when they leave! Read here for those tips. https://www.bozemancounseling.org/blog/2021/1/10/what-now-11-tools-to-help-with-that.) We focus on our careers in a more effective way.  

We are doing all kinds of things we couldn’t when life was consumed with the job of nourishing small humans.

Note to self: This adjustment time is rough. 

But it is just that. A time, and it will pass, too.

It might take a bit, and that’s ok. Give yourself time to be sad, to grieve. There is no specific timeline. You don’t have to listen to those telling you to “get over it,” “It’s supposed to be this way,” “You’ll be fine.” Take the time you need to process it before moving on. Then do just that. Move on when you’re ready.

Remember when you forgot who you were because you couldn’t see past the mashed peas in your hair, and you had to tell your friends you couldn’t go anywhere when they called? Now is the time to call them! Or to find that new community that has similar interest to you so you can grow in those hobbies and talents. It doesn’t matter if the kids went to college, a foreign land, or down the road. Now is the time for you to remember who you were; to remember who you are! 

That child will call. They will come home. They will become the amazing adults you spent time teaching them to be.  Maybe you will even become wonderful friends with these awesome adults. You gave them the roots to grow and the wings to fly, now let them. After you have sent them off, given them love, an invitation to come home often, as hard as it might be, step back and watch them as they fly, while you remember them in those long days and short years.

You’ve got this, Mom and Dad.

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